One of the things that you hear most about healthy relationships, families, and communities is that they are built on trust. Now, I have to admit, that this confuses me a little bit. I mean, what is this ‘Trust’ thing anyway? To find out more about how to cultivate trust, I did a bit of research. John Gottman, Ph.D. at the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley defines trust using the acronym ‘Attune’:
- Awareness of your partner’s emotion;
- Turning toward the emotion;
- Tolerance of two different viewpoints;
- trying to Understanding your partner;
- Non-defensive responses to your partner;
- and responding with Empathy.
Are you surprised? I have to admit that I was. I grew up in a culture where having ‘trust’ in a relationship meant something straightforward, like having trust that someone is not ‘cheating’ on you, or trusting that they will show up when they said they would. Matthew and Terces seem to have a similar idea about trust in relationship. Here are some of the things that they are committed to:
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